Topics that tank: Exes or past lives

Topics that tank: Exes or past lives

Generally, conversation on any ex, legal or otherwise, is a high speed elevator that zips you into the danger zone. It doesn’t matter when it happened or how un-traumatic the breakup was, opening that Pandora’s box will spark bits of nostalgia, feelings of regret, pain or guilt – emotions you don’t want to display to someone you barely know. So, no past lives, torrid details of why the breakups were imminent, why you prefer being a loner when you’re facing a person who could be your future.  

Stay in the present, focus on the future. Steer away from unloading details on your offspring, step kids, no many how any degrees removed they are. Smile, keep it light, fun and friendly but consciously create some emotional chemistry so that it can lead to stronger chemical attraction. Make sure your date likes you as a person and wants to see you again before sharing life altering details with each other.