3. You put effort and energy into the relationship

3. You put effort and energy into the relationship

You do your Kegels and accept that aphrodisiacs have a place in modern love. But we can’t be in sync all the time. When one person peaks at her lunar mood high and the other is just too dead beat to move (plus has his 100^th episode of sinusitis attacks in 20 days), it’s tricky. Don’t assume it’s one of those days and sweep it under the carpet because the lower sex drive person will always feel pressured to give sex (did anyone mention looks could kill?) and the one with the higher sex drive will constantly feel physically deprived. Consider this fair warning: when sex stops, the affection stops. Fights will intensify and the iciness will begin.