In conclusion....

Men don’t want a woman who wants to play mistress

Some guys we spoke to shared in confidence that while men fool around but they seldom respect a woman who falls for a guy who’s not available for the taking. He might care about her but he’s unlikely to leave his main squeeze, not matter how severe his marital problems are.

Apparently, it’s a known double standard that men judge you based on how they picked you up. You see, men question the moral values a fallback girl has and won’t trust her to raise their kids. Ultimately, guys still want a "good girl" who’s frisky in bed but one they can proudly take home to Mom and announce as the catch that they won’t let slip away.

What kind of relationship do you really want? 

Not all extramarital affairs are the same, but they seldom transition into full-fledged relationships. Wait for the guy to do the right thing by settling his affairs extraordinaire. Let him come to you in the right state of mind, the right attitude, with his hands untied.

Cheating boils down to one thing only – a singular decision to break a commitment and cross the line. Having affection and sexual attraction for someone who’s unavailable for the keeping comes at a high price. Even in our moments of extreme weakness, stand resolute and choose the kind of love that’s good for you.

Monogamy brings two people closer. It isn't a socially restrictive lifestyle, it's a decision. You may have given him your heart but it’s time to take it back.  

Karen Khng is Managing Director of Love Script International. Find Love Script at www.love-script.com or info@love-script.com