Signs your relationship has turned abusive

1. He or she handpicks victims
Abusers don't insult, threaten, or assault every Tom, Dick or Harry. The abuse is saved for the people closest to them, the ones they claim they love. There's complete control when they're in public scrutiny but things become hellish when you are alone. They know instinctively when it's advantageous to stop (colleagues or boss calls) and when to put it on tap again.