Why is your man disappearing?

Text: Karen Khng
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Why do men pull away?
It’s dastardly confusing. But your instincts aren’t always wrong. Periods of mind blowing connection followed by the occasion curve ball and, poof, he disappears. No texts, no emails, no conversation, no whys, just clear radio silence. Odd one week disappearances turn into three and the excuses start mounting – busy at work, busy at home, busy with life. No more “miss you, love you, babe” texts. Nada. He’s aloof, acts uncertain and isn’t clamoring to see you. He doesn’t take your calls, cites work problems as his ally and rubs salt saying a relationship just isn’t a priority at the moment. There’s zero effort on his part. He’s basically checked out. What’s possessed the man you love and replaced his heart and head with cold hard steel?

Is he staying or going?
It stands to reason you go ballistic. But he swears nothing’s wrong. Problem is you can’t tell if he’s planning to disappear for good or he’s just doing the “my life isn’t not in order” thing. History has proven that men don’t consciously “take space.” But when they pull away, there’s little you can do to twist it in your favor.