5. He fears losing his freedom

5. He fears losing his freedom

He pulls away at 3-4 months because he’s aware it’s no longer “just dating” if it continues. At half year point, it’s “for real” if you’re still doing the scene together. Note his disclaimer: his version of “for real” may not match yours. At year end, most women want a fuller commitment and the heat is on. A guy who isn’t serious about you continues to “date you” without a milestone in sight. A better guy would at least think about it.

Although monogamy isn’t something he dreads, the thought of legalizing permanence and one sex partner for the next 10, 15, 20 (yikes, more?) years may sound like an unsolicited jail sentence. They fear your downslide physically, financially, emotionally and mentally in that specific order. Ironically, instead of celebrating the end of celibacy in support of weekly sex and home cooked meals, many men equate commitment to ending life as they knew it. They only inch closer to the marriage goal post if they fear losing you.